What do you think of when you hear the words “wellness” or “conscious living”? Usually our minds go straight to thinking balanced meals, yoga and exercise, fitness etc. It’s great that many people today are aware of wellness and are taking steps to implement various aspects of it in their lives. However, wellness is not just about eating and working out. The real key to conscious living lies in your mind. Change your beliefs and the way you think and get ready to transform your life. Interested? The first article in my series on mental health and stress is up on Sassy Mamma now. Click here to read the full article.
The concept of meditation can be somewhat confusing. Some people may think that it’s a waste of time because they believe that you simply just sit there and do nothing. Yes, you may just be sitting there and doing nothing, but there actually is a whole lot that goes on within. “Meditation is to focus one’s mind for a period of time, in silence or with the aid of chanting for religious or spiritual purposes or as a method of relaxation.“ (Oxford Dictionary).
Basically, you are resting the mind and attaining a state of consciousness that is completely different from the normal waking state. During meditation, your mind is clear, relaxed and focused. People may believe that you are asleep however you are fully awake and alert, but your mind is not focused on the external world but mainly focusing on your inner state. After a prolonged period of this, the mind is silent hence deepening the meditation.
Dalai Lama said “If every 8 year old in the world taught is taught meditation, we will eliminate violence from the world within one generation.” Through looking through the benefits of meditation, we will finally understand why he said that!
- Lower High Blood Pressure
- Improves the immune system
- Increase energy levels
- Reduces the level of blood lactate hence reducing anxiety attacks
- Improves metabolism and helps you lose weight
- Stress relieves
- Happiness increases
- An expanded consciousness without sharpness can lead to lack of action/progress
- Creativity increases
- Peace of mind
- Increases attention span
- Improves functioning of the brain
With so many benefits and more, wouldn’t you want to give meditation a go?
When someone asks, “What makes an athlete so successful?”. Most people would probably say “Physical fitness, 10+ hours of training, healthy diet……” Yes, these factors are extremely important however, it is only one part. The full equation to athletic success is: Physical Abilities + Mindset! The power of ones mental state can determine whether one is to succeed or fail based on their beliefs. Another question now arises, “how does one have a strong belief system ? Or “can I get some help to achieve this strong mental state?” The answer to that is: YES! Our method is hypnotherapy!
In general, hypnotherapy is used to create subconscious change in an individual to align them to their best performance. It is not used to teach a skill but to profoundly enhance the performance. For sports, what generally happens during these sessions, is the athlete will state what he/she wants to achieve, i.e. Run 2 seconds faster in a 100m sprint. From then on, the goal is to help the athlete create a winning environment.
Sports hypnotherapy does many things:
- Helps focus on goals
- Increases concentration
- Uses deep relaxation and concentration to imagine success
- Helps control negative thoughts and emotions
- Helps with relaxation during physical activity
- Removes Anxiety
- Boosts confidence
- Maintains composure
- Helps overcomes distraction
- Helps overcomes fear
- Positive self-talk
And the list can go on and on…
Athletes all over the world use this, the list goes from Tiger Woods to Michael Jordon. Here at All About You, we had Dan Wells, a Hong Kong based British racing driver go through the hypnosis process with Sonia Samtani. With 10/10 wins, Dan now clearly has both the skill and the mindset that is conditioned to win. During a one on one interview, He said: When someone asked him where he was during the race, he would often answer third, and since in his head he was third, he always pulled up third. Through this realization he changed the way he thought and started coming first. What Sonia did was simply aligning his conscious and subconscious mind to a trigger which associated him to his best performance. Dan then has used this trigger ever since which has caused him to win every race. We are very proud of Dan and would love to help more sports player master their mental game and program their mind to be a champion!
To understand chakra healing, you would first want to know what it is. As a very basic definition, a chakra is each of seven centres of spiritual power in the human body. There are 7 main chakra’s which align the spine starting from the base of the spine through the crown of the head. These 7 include the root chakra, sacral chakra, solar plexus chakra, heart chakra, throat chakra, third eye chakra and finally the crown chakra.
- The root chakra (Muladhra)
The root chakra is the first chakra and is located at the base of your spine. It is the chakra that connects us to our physical world, our environment and the Earth. It also represents feeling grounded and also feeling stable with regards to all aspects of our lives.
- The sacral chakra (Svadhisthana)
The sacral chakra is located around the pelvis. This chakra represents desire, pleasure, sexuality, procreation and creativity.
- The solar plexus chakra (Manipura)
The solar plexus chakra which is located a few inches above the navel is mainly concerned your self-control, will power, self-discipline and also your personality. It focuses bring in control when needed and being able to let go when appropriate.
- The heart chakra (Anahata)
The heart chakra which is located in the centre of the chest represents unconditional love (which includes self-love) empathy, compassion, respect, kindness, warmth etc.
- The throat chakra (Visuddha)
The throat chakra which is located in the neck and the throat is the chakra of creativity, commination, originality, judgment and self-expression. This chakra rules self expression and speaking one’s truth.
- The third eye chakra (Anja)
The third eye chakra which is located at the centre of the forehead is similar to what we all know as the “sixth sense”. This chakra grants us our sense of observation. It allows us to question things and also connects us to our internal intuitions and how aligned we are with our vision. It also is associated with wisdom.
- The crown chakra (Sahasrara)
The crown chakra is a spiritual connection. It acts as a portal in which it allows you to reach your higher potential. It symbolizes the detachment from illusion. It is also said that other chakra emergered through this chakra.
A lot of the time, people don’t know if their chakra’s balanced or unbalanced. The stress of everyday life can take a toll on you, and if you are feeling ‘out of sorts’ then a chakra reading will help you understand the conditions of your chakras and reveal which one of these chakra’s are unbalanced. During these sessions, your fears or problems will be revealed. When the problem is identified, the chakras can slowly be brought back into alignment. Also, you could learn how to make subtle changes to help with balancing your chakras. So let’s say your root chakra is unbalanced. There are actually things you can do in daily life to help balance it. The colour associated with the root chakra is red, so imagining the colour red glowing brightly at the base of the spine can be a starting step. Another cool factor is that eating red foods, such as apples, strawberries, beets, beef etc also helps with the process. This chakra is also related to being grounded to Earth, so taking walks in nature and soaking up the air and the sounds helps you connect more to mother nature. Lastly, learning about affirmation are another way to unblock your chakras. Saying “I belong in this world”, “I am at peace with my surroundings” etc is also a form of cleansing the chakra. When the chakra has finally opened, the energy will be able to flow freely and you will feel empowered, loved and nurtured.
Is it possible to completely avoid negative thoughts? To think that we should be positive 100% of the time? If you fall into the category, then that’s remarkable, simply because we are living in duality and there will always be two polar opposite energies. Negative thoughts and energies have the tendency follow us wherever we go, no matter what we do; but the good news is that positive thoughts do the same! With that being said, we have the choice.
People generally have about 25,000-50,000 thoughts a day. Depending on the type of person you are (ie. Pessimist vs optimist), the nature of the thoughts vary. Obviously you would assume that if you were a pessimist, you would have a more cynical outlook on life whereas if you were an optimist, you are generally happy. Ultimately though, this seems unrealistic. Yes, being a positive person is extremely important, however for that healthy mindset, we need to understand and accept that there will always be negative thoughts. More importantly, knowing the purpose, and knowing how to use the 2 properly is most important.
Here is a scenario where the use of both the mindsets are equally as important.
Let’s say that you and your friend had a huge fight and haven’t been talking for a couple days. An optimist would believe that time, patience etc will mend the problem on its own, meaning out of the blue, the would just suddenly be happy and best friends again. While this may happen once in a while, the root of the problem still underlies the friendship. This is where pessimism might come in handy. A pessimist will try to solve the problem, asking questions like “Was it my fault?”, “Was this the reason?”. They are critically analyzing the problem, and finding the cause to the issue. In this scenario allowing the person to reflect and solve. Positive thinking give life optimism and mental toughness, negative thinking however to a certain extent makes you more critical. Due to this, finding the harmonious balance between the 2 is thus the key component of life.
What is it about men women find most attractive and
What is it about women men find most attractive?
Men to women:
Wearing less make up! This may seem weird because most women tend to wear make up to beautify themselves! A lot of times though, they may possibly go overboard with the eye-shadow or lipstick. The point of make up is to enhance your natural features, this meaning you still look like yourself! While women may think that men prefer them dolled up, it actually is the opposite. It was recently proven in an experiment, that men would prefer women with 40% less make up than they were wearing. This doesn’t mean women shouldn’t wear make up, but maybe try a toned down look like the “no make-up” make up look!
Confidence. This is a tough one because its very rare to come across a women that is 100% satisfied with herself. Apparently, men find confident women more secure. This is because they know exactly who they are and are comfortable in their own skin. One of the things that men value the most is that a confident women is not only the confidence that they have with themselves, but also confidence in their relationship. This is because they are usually less jealous, and also not really needing for the constant reassurance that they are loved.
More attributes: Decisiveness, Patience, Someone whose optimistic, hourglass figure……
Women to men:
Not to sound superficial, but height matters. Did you know that apparently back in the caveman days women were said to be evolutionary geared to gravitate towards taller men, this was mainly due to the need for physical protection. While its not really necessary now, this evolutionary programming of the mind has basically stuck with the female mind where they would instinctually prefer a taller man. It was recently discovered that women tend to want a man who towers over them because it fits to the gender stereotypes and makes them feel secure, delicate and protected. Also, most of our world’s cultures regard tall men as embodiments of all that is masculine. So what if you aren’t that blessed with height? It doesn’t really matter, as long as your taller than the women.
Intelligence! By intelligence, it doesn’t mean being super book smart where you have a bunch of degrees. Being intelligent can also mean being social intelligence where you may just know random facts, or in the simplest form is able to carry a conversation of some intellectual level. After all, no one wants to talk to someone who can share valuable opinions. Even having a good sense of humour is seen as a form of intelligence. Intelligence can be very attractive but remember to use it the right way. If you are “book smart”, try to use it in a humble way, where you throw cool and fun facts/ideas at her.
More attributes: Someone who pays attention to the “smaller” details, a sense of humour, someone who listens, a sense of fun, passion and ambition……
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Earl Nightingale, a respected speaker/author dealing with the subjects of human character development, motivation, excellence and meaningful existence said “Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and emotion will one day become a reality. ” As a basic understanding, the subconscious mind differs from that of the conscious one where with repetition, it guides us to or away from our goals. Thus, those who know how to effectively harness it, know the secrets to achieving great triumph in life.
Before any further discussion, here are some interesting facts:
- The subconscious mind never rests. It runs 90% in your daily life, thus meaning only 10% of your conscious mind is being used.
- The subconscious mind generally works best when people are not alert, hence meaning the greatest of ideas might “click” in your brain at the randomest moments, i.e watching TV, running, showering etc.
- The subconscious mind is the irrational, non-analytical part, meaning that it believes anything the mind is fed. It does not have the power to differentiate “realness” from “imagination”.
- The main function of the subconscious mind is to keep a person alive. It does not affect ones ability to choose right from wrong, and this is why most people tend to keep repeating ‘bad’ habits.
- The subconscious mind stores detailed information of everything you have ever experienced, felt, seen, heard or read; starting from they forth day of the forth month of when you were in your mother’s womb!.
To have a life that works, the subconscious mind and the conscious mind must align. This may sound simple, however in reality is rather challenging. People tend to set goals however, an inner conflict within the 2 may hinder the outcome. A common example is a person trying to quit smoking. If one were to decide to quit smoking, the conscious mind will make the effort, however the subconscious mind, being able to recall all the fond memories and experiences will prevent the persons ability to go “cold turkey”. People tend to succumb to the subconscious mind. Furthermore, in efforts to have a balanced life, you could aim to get in touch with surrendering to and releasing toxicity in the subconscious mind and aligning it you your goals.
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Visualization is an age old technique popularized by ‘The Secret’ to help bring into your life that which you desire. We have found visualization to be one of the most powerful tools that amalgamates thought, emotion and action to achieve your goal. In fact visualization is one of the only concepts that focuses your entire mind towards your objective. (more…)
With the recent shift in awareness many of us are becoming conscious of our dormant capacity to manifest our desires and achieve our goals. Many refer to this phenomenon as working with the universe, the law of attraction, or being the creator of your destiny. Regardless of how we look at it, most of us now realize that we can make things happen, however we may wonder exactly how to do this; what exactly are the steps; does it work every time?
Through my own experience and, all the work and books that I have read, I have outlined below four simple steps to manifest what you want providing that it is in alignment with what is best for you. This means that although you are very clear on what you want to manifest, you will ultimately get it through detachment to the result and truly being okay with or without it.
Step One: Name what you want
Most of us want something in life, be it more money, power, luxury, relationships, a healthy body, successful career, ideal weight and so on. We desire that which we do not have or do not have enough of. It is important to be as specific as you possibly can when describing what you want; so if you want a specific client write down 10 traits of your ideal customer. If you want to be financially rich ask yourself what that looks like? How much money would make you rich and where should that money come from? It also helps to know why you want it; will it help you to be happier/ content/ healthier etc? Please do bear in mind that we all have choice and free-will, so if you name a specific person you could be infringing on their right to choose. It is best not to attach a particular form to your desire, instead focus on all the traits you want to see in that person.
Remember if you can’t name it, you can’t have it!
Step Two: Discover your blockages
Coming from the premise that everything is energy or vibration and the vibration of one thing impacts another, the only reason why you do not have what you want is because you have certain beliefs that prevent you from getting it. These beliefs propel you to be the complete opposite of who you need to be in order to obtain your goal. For example, if your goal is to have a loving relationship, the underlying belief may be ‘ I don’t deserve to be loved’ – this belief may be so subtle that it goes unnoticed, yet it is something you have felt for a long time and keeps cropping up.
You can identify your beliefs by writing down why you think you don’t have what you want. When you are aware of your negative beliefs, make a commitment to eradicate it. This can be achieved by focusing on it, feeling the toxicity of the emotion in your body, and keep exhaling out the emotional charge as if you are blowing air into a balloon. Keep doing this on a daily basis until you feel no emotions attached to the negative belief.
Step Three: Believe you can have it
For anything to materialize someone needs to believe that it is possible; your thoughts needs to be in alignment with your desire. Many times we may know that we want something, and at the same time we are scared we won’t be able to handle it if we receive it. When you have eradicated your negative beliefs, it is time to strengthen the positive and put your thoughts in consonance with your aspiration.
Write down at least 10 reasons why you believe you can have your particular goal. It could be because you have done something similar before; or because you have all the skills and qualifications needed to achieve it; or because you know others have done it so you can too; or because you believe that things have always come easily to you. As you are writing this, you are telling yourself and the universe that you are ready and open to receiving it.
Finally close your eyes, imagine that you have manifested what you want, and focus what that feels like. It is important to keep focusing on the emotions that you would feel once you have achieved it, and experience the same contentment, peace, joy, happiness, excitement or anything else. The subconscious mind does not know the difference between physical reality or creative visualization, so in your visualization you are planting memories in your subconscious that lay the foundation for success.
Step Four: Let it go
If you have ever held sand in the palm of your hand and squeezed it, you would see that it spills. Similarly if we hold onto our desires and goals with attachment, we are creating the negative vibration of fear and decreasing the possibility of actualizing the goal. This is one of the most crucial steps of manifestation, and probably the one that is mostoverlooked. Once you know why you believe you will have that goal, surrender it totally and completely to the universe with confidence. Carry on with your life with the positive emotions that you created with your visualization and be fine with or without this goal. It may sound strange, but what you are doing is taking away any residual negative belief, fear or greed associated with the desire. Ocne you have truly let go and feel good about yourself ….. watch the universe perform its magic! ?
Manifestation is rooted in our thoughts, words, behavior and actions. Clarity and consistency in all are a prerequisite to any manifestation. Try the formula above and I would love to hear about your results.
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Ever heard of someone complaining about a headache when they’re stressed? It may seem strange but this happens because of the mind body connection. Mind Body Connection means that there is a link between our emotions and our physical body; where our minds affect how healthy are biological functions. Our thoughts, feelings, beliefs and attitudes can either impact our body in a positive or negative manner. Doctors have evaluated the connection between our mental and physical health for a long time. Until the 1800s, most believed that emotions were linked to disease and when one was sick, they often advised them to visit spas or seaside resorts when they were ill. However as medicine started healing everything, people started dismissing the idea. Today, we accept that there is a powerful mind-body connection through. In fact some specialists say that the mind and body are inseparable.
Many things can happen in your life that cause stress and affect your emotional health. These things could be being fired, going through a divorce, having to study for a stressful exam, dealing with a death of a loved one. During these anxious times, your body is trying to communicate with you, it’s trying to inform you that something is wrong. So lets say your dealing with a divorce, there could be a chance of getting high blood pressure, or during studying for an exam, you could get a headache. Here are some other symptoms that could show that there is some sort of emotional trauma going on within:
- Constipation or diarrhea
- Extreme tiredness
- Aches and pains
- High blood pressure
- Insomnia (trouble sleeping)
- Palpitations (the feeling that your heart is racing)
- Sexual problems
- Shortness of breath
- Weight gain or loss
If your experiencing the symptoms above, it could be because of an emotional crisis. On the bright side though, there is such a thing as mind-body medicine/treatment. Mind-body medicine focuses on treatments that may promote health, including relaxation, hypnosis, visual imagery, meditation, yoga, and biofeedback. More techniques include prayer, support groups, tai chi. Just for the peace of mind, it’s always important to do something that relaxes you! Always find something you enjoy doing!
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Is it possible to be 100% optimistic?
Is it possible to completely avoid negative thoughts? Would it be right to think that life is only about feeling good 100% of the time and never feeling sad, angry or fearful? The obvious answer is No! The truth is that we are living in a world of duality and there will always be two polar opposite energies. Negative thoughts and energies will be there wherever we go, no matter what we do; but the good news is that positive thoughts will be too! We have all understood the experience of life by distinguishing between opposites; we only know what light is from experiencing darkness, hot from cold, wet from dry, happy from unhappy. So in this sense we would need to experience the negative feelings as a part of our life experience to know what the positive ones are, it’s a part of our lives that can’t be eliminated.
With that being said, wouldn’t it be easy to accept the negative thoughts when they come instead of resisting them? Knowing that they will always be there, it makes for far greater life experience to accept and observe our fearful, sad, guilty or angry thoughts and emotions. Accepting doesn’t mean we need to buy into the story of the fear and identify ourselves as a coward, it’s merely accepting the emotion that’s present within right now without judgment. It’s the act of merely watching and allowing the emotion to be fully experienced and in doing so, allowing it to go when it’s done.
It is inevitable that we will experience a whole spectrum of emotions during our lifetime, and we are as entitled to sadness and guilt as we are to happiness and elation. Both are just a part of our experience. Of course the frequency in which they occur, and how often we experience the so-called ‘negative’ emotions can be influenced by us.
We agree that it’s far more pleasant and comfortable to feel pleasant emotions, and these come from having more positive thoughts. The thoughts we have immediately produce emotions and that’s what we tend to feel. We generally have about 25,000-50,000 thoughts a day, and the nature of these thoughts vary depending on our outlook and beliefs. If we believe that we are not good enough, or the world is a scary place and we are not safe, then we will be feeling more fear, guilt, anger and sadness more often. If we believe that we are safe, we have faith in the universe, and we accept ourselves, we will experience emotions of faith, love, peace and contentment more often.
In either case we will always be experiencing the whole spectrum of what’s available, and our influence impacts where we live more often and what our default mode is. My invitation to you would be to create beliefs for yourselves that support empowering thoughts and emotions, expect to feel down some of the time as a natural part of your life’s experience, and when the darker emotions occur, watch them without judgment and allow them to be. It’s ALWAYS okay to feel your feelings, you have a right to them!
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When preparing for interviews, it is fair to say that most of us choose to focus on what there is to ‘do’. We have a ‘to do’ list of what to bring, what to wear, what to say, what to research, how to sit, how to shake hands, how to introduce ourselves, and the list goes on. Whilst I think these are important factors, I consider all of these as secondary to what really makes the difference. I strongly believe that your being, and by that I mean your mindset, is the primary factor that determines your interview result. This is an internal facet that I term as the hidden image; it is not something that is tangible, however people get a sense of your self-perception, confidence and attitude when you enter a room. Hence your hidden image largely dominates the judgments that are made about you. (more…)
1. ‘Gut Feeling’
Your mind is located at the pit of your stomach and is made up of two parts, the conscious and the subconscious. Whenever you feel fear, nervousness, butterflies in your stomach or any primal emotion you sense it in your gut or the pit of your stomach.
2. The subconscious mind makes up 88-90% of your mind and is therefore 9 times larger than your conscious mind according Dr. John G. Kappas (Professional Hypnotism Manual)
It has all the logical answers for life’s illogical questions. Many times we know the logical answer e.g. I should trust people but due to certain experiences the subconscious has concluded that people cannot be trusted. So no matter how much logic makes sense we cannot bring ourselves to follow it. As a result there is a conflict in the mind.
3. The subconscious mind is 6,000 times more powerful according to Dr. John G. Kappas
The weight of any belief or emotion outweighs all logic. So when someone wants to quit smoking and they have some 5,672 positive memories associated to smoking it is more powerful than their logical beliefs.
Hypnotherapy works by tapping into the subconscious to heal the toxicity of an experience so that the conscious and the subconscious are saying the same thing.