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The more I work with people, the more I am convinced that all that is required when healing any aspect of our lives is giving acceptance to those parts of us that we have judged in the past. All our issues are caused by us judging something, be it ourselves, other people, results, or situations. By judging I mean labeling something as ‘bad’ or ‘good’ (yes, judging something to be ‘good’ can also contribute to issues, because when we judge something positively, we are reinforcing that something else will need to be ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’ in contrast).

In light of this, the only way to be free from any type of issue or challenge is to recognise that we have choice in how we interpret things. We can choose to keep judging things and live life by oscillating between feeling like a victim and feeling momentarily elated, or we can choose to understand that life offers us a plethora of experiences that will be both easy and challenging, and our job is to look at both through the same lens of acceptance. It sounds simple, and yet it’s a very tall order when you apply it.

I invite you to pick one thing you are challenged about right now, and begin to accept all the things you are judging about it (be it other people’s behaviour, your own behaviour or the situation).  As you do this you will see that the more you accept, the lighter you will feel and you will be freeing yourself from the mental toxicity of the past.